Hi Ingrid,this is Elaine Phillips,well the problem is my youngest grandson Kory,Kris youngest son needs plan B and C. The last time on July 3,2008 you ask for the young men ages. He Kory is now 5 years of age,where he was 2 years of age when his Dad was killed in the car accident. Would you believe that after three years my grandson cried and told me that he missed his Dad so much and wanted to know when his Dad was returning home from work. This really broke my heart so bad not knowing that my grandson was still waiting for his Dad to return home from work. All Kory knew was that his Dad had passed. At 2 years of age what do he know about passing. Just what he thought That his Dad had passed by the house after work and he missed him and went back to work the next morning. He would say that his Dad was in heaven,but he thought that heaven was at work. He was use of hearing when Kris was at work they would say oh Kris is in heaven now. A FireFighter was Kris dream since he was attending daycare. My words to him was that yes your Dad is in heaven,but not at work and that your Dad was killed in a fatal care accident and that will not be returning home from work ever again because your Dad is dead. This took so much out of me to tell this 5 year old that his Dad will not be returning back home. I felt like crying but it was his turn to get it all out. I didnot cry at my son funeral,because I had so many to hold up for. My daughter was 5 month pregnant,his fiance,two grandsons and his brother. Many nepews,2 nieces and cousins who looked up to Kris as a role model in the family. Kris was so well respected by many,friends and family members. They would say call Kris he knows what to do. So someone and somebody had to be strong. But I really think this is where my sickness fell in. Holding in everything trying to be strong. So Ingrid I really need plan B and C or maybe E and F."Smile" Elaine
I just figured out that there is a Lodi NJ, as well as a Lodi ca. I am in California, although my huisband is from Chicago and eventually we will be moving there. Right now we are taking care of my mom who's health is failing. Thanks, and God bless
Hi there, believe it or not, Dealing with Children isn't the easiest thing :). We both raised grown Children here.. My Son and I really didn't get along since he turned 15... more like he was smelling his oat's so to speak.. As a result we have had an off and on relationship since then. I can explain more... I'm at firstname.lastname@example.org. Anyway, I still worship the ground that both Him and My Daughter walks on. I always will. This is how I know that you do the right things in life especially with your Children. I allowed them both the life of Morals and Civil know how!. One thing I know, If I should ever close my eyes, no matter what.. They will be ok. Whether now or later.. e-mail me. We can talk. Hope the family is good... Now... u bar b que ing tomorrow or you have a family function on Saturday? Either way, what is you speciality? I love to cook. We can share some tips :)
Hi Ingrid you are so right. I have been talking to the boys,bringing them to church and they have so much to remember they dad with. Now their Mom is great with them and do let them know what a great dad they had. Kris do remember good times with his dad that he speaks of now. I think he was most angry about is that he never had a chance to say good-bye. Their Mom is now a New Orleans Police Officer. I hear Kris all the time stating my dad was a hero and now so is my mom. So I created a coloring book with there mom the police officer and their dad the firefighter. Also a picture of the two together stating my mom & dad our heroes.
got to work on yr Grandson!. Now is the time to let your feelings go for a minute and get this young Man and his Brother on the same page and grow up so confident, they can be Super Hero's like their Dad :)
Good Morning... my computer had some crazy moments on it's own yesterday. I guess the heat. How are you doing down in Orlins. Hope you are hanging in with a snmile :). I was hoping to come to the Essence Awards down there, maybe next year. I'm going to get my Husband to download my picture so you can know how you are writing to. You have to come to New York... In time. How are your other family member doing? I have a good Friend who lives in California, she had a lot of family in New Orleans, and they have been displaced. She is still searching. You know family is so important, no matter how much drama :). My Son is in Iraq, and Everyday I cry. I have a Daughter also, she is 30 next month and still considers herself, Mom's Liability...hahahahaha. She's good to go though. I have a beautiful Grandaughter who is now 8 Months old, from my Son and his girlfriend. From the time she was born, I named her Miss America.
can't wear no jewelry around her though. She snatch's and her hand and fat fingers have a grip that is tighter than a machine shop grip.
Ingrid I hear this and I know this,but why it is still hurting so long? My sister told me look at it like this,God needed some good angels to help him out up there. Kris that he was a GOOD child. Kris was always there to help anyone else if he could. When I say hook up man that he was. Kris could hook up your car,computer,toaster,refrigerator,washer,dryer,Kris was so much as able to fix a friendship. Yes he was kind of a special guy. Everyone that met Kris loved him. You couldn't help but love him with that big smile he carried at all times. I know God will be there for me when I cry and have them not so good days and sleepless nites. Only GOD will bring me through this. Its taking a long time but I know someday it will happen. Thanks so much for your words of encouragement and caring bout me. Keep in touch to help me to go on "Teedie" Elaine Phillips.