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I am feeling much better than I did back in April. But this is an uphill (hopefully) process and there are setbacks. What is helping me immensely is that my 16 year old son seems to have a new group of friends and is very busy and happy. The grief I felt watching him so sad just about killed me. Interestingly, he had a very sad hour or two where he just burst out crying and said he wished his dad was here and how much he missed him. But we talked through it and he has a very close friend now that he shared those feelings with and everything got better. That is what is needed support when you are sad and need comfort. He has that now and I am so thankful.

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At 8:48am on May 14, 2010, kathy obiedzinski said…: cathy: i do a lot of walking everyday when i do i see people that walk, dress and has hair like george. on the weekends my sister tries to take me out with her friends. i really do not like to go because i feel they are her friends and not mine. i have a few friends but no one to talk about i feel that my sisters friends invite me just because i need to get out
when i come home from work i try to walk on the avenue for a least 1 to 2 hrs.just walking not buying anything. last week a gentleman that george and i both know stopped me and said to me i have seen you but not your husband i chocked up and told him george passed he asked me when and i told him he looked so shocked sometimes i feel i should get everyone that knew george together and tell them all just what happened so this way i do not have to repeat to anyone thanks

At 4:10pm on April 18, 2010, Carrie L said…: Hi Cathy thanks for thecondolences I will take care of my other children we will all remember Morgan and wish he was here. he liked to have fun so that is what I will force myself to do. That would make him smile.

At 12:20pm on April 18, 2010, Carrie L said…: Hi cathy I am so sorry for your loss 47 is too young My son was not quite 24. He will be greatly missed. I doubt anyone feels like I do. Carrie L

At 4:46pm on April 17, 2010, Cathy said…: I lost my husband to colon cancer when he was 47. My son was 13 at the time. My husband's cancer was misdiagnosed and very advanced when it was finally diagnosed. He fought very hard to stay alive for almost 4 years. It seemed like there was support from friends when he was first diagnosed, but as the disease consumed him, more people (some life long friends became distant). When he died, I felt some support for the first 6 months, but then nothing. The worst thing for me was that all of my son's life long friends suddenly avoided him. The house used to be full of friends, then NOTHING. I know 13 is an age when friendships change, but I can't help but believe that a lot of the avoidance was because of the friend's discomfort. He feels very alone and it has changed who he was.