Posted on March 31, 2010 at 3:27pm
I have recently lost the love of my life. We met when I was only 15 years old and married when I was 16. We have been married for 27 1/2 years and he just passed away on
3-12-10 and I don't know how to keep going. I can't remember what my life was like before John and I can't picture it now without him. Can someone please tell me how to survive this? how to make it thru the day without crying? How to comfort my kids and grandkids? Please,, I need help.
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How are you doing? Your message sounded sad but better. If that reflects how you are think you are doing, you're making good progress. You have the right to feel good about yourself for getting to ware you are.
It's funny, I've not done anything with Legacy for about a month, your the 3rd thing in 2 days. The other 2 were simply booking, nothing important. I find talking with you and others rewarding, even if I can't really do anything that makes a noticeable difference. This is hard to explain I feel good, but I've been ill leaving me with little to do that feels worth wile. So if you want to talk, feel free, I do too.
Did John have coronary artery disease? My mother's sister lived with CHF for many years and died unexpectedly Christmas '08.
I asked if John was older, 8 years makes him 51 or 52, about the same as me. I'll be 53 in July. The 50's is a dangers time, both in absolute numbers and percentage wise, more people die in their 50's than 60's. It seems that if someone has a long term potential health problem it gets them in the 50's. I was born with the condition that nearly killed me 3 years ago, no one had a clue how dangerous it is. The most noticeable symptom is a runny nose. I started not being able to clear the mucus from my lungs, leading to pneumonia. I nearly died from a runny nose!
Do you have the chance to interact with people on a daily basis? The normalcy of doing everyday things with others is a good thing.
If the limits you have using a computer leaves you feeling you need more, we might be able to figure something out.
I felt so helpless her last two months, she was in so much pain she moaned all night long and then she was on morphine and that made her loopy. I found a note she had written on her desk exclaiming she recognized she was crazy. She wasn't but the pain drugs made her think she was. I was just so helpless. I can't type this without bawling. I'm sorry I'm not cheering you up. I can say the one thing I did which is helping me is I started a paper journal and an online journal. I invite all my friends and Darlene's friends to write in the book. The instruction is NO CONDOLENCES. Because condolences are as empty as the hole in my life. I ASK THAT they write how my wife was special to them. That helps me focus on her positives and not my losses. It helps some. the facebook page is Legacy of Darlene Klar. If you give me your email address I can send you the fan invitation so you can see what I did. I had it on legacy.com but they wanted to charge for it and facebook was free, so I moved it. Of course when you see the page, I put one of Darlene's dance videos on it and I can't watch it without crying but I watch it anyway. It might work if you cut and paste this in your browser. I provided a place for condolences because some people don't know what to write otherwise, but I don't read them.
My paper version I have more control over and still some condolences slipped in.
Concilia looks to be on a fishing expedition, the exact message you received was sent to me and 34 pages of other people. It contains nothing specific to any of the recipient's profile and has nothing appropriate to the Grief support group. Do-not send emails to her, your email address or any other information that could be used for fraud. I'm looking into how to report this person.
If you Emailed her directly at her yahoo.com email address, please contact Legacy. Unfortunately the only method I've found to
do so is sending an Email to firstname.lastname@example.org
as shown in the box in the upper left of the "main" page in the tabs at the top of this page.
I'm sorry if my message is blunt poorly worded and disturbed you. I needed to get something done quickly. In a few minutes, I've received two replies showing that the message was sent to many people.
I put a message up on Concilia's wall and sent an Email to Legacy. I don't know how long it might take for them to respond.
This appears to be a variation on the a classic e-mail scams, "you have money" or " I need help.." but targeted to a very venerable group. I has the tell tails of internet scams, comes from a foreign country from a non native english speaker. Being in a foreign country makes prosecution or recovery of assets impassable.
The original message looks to have been written in Spanish then translated by a translation computer program and not edited by someone who speaks any english at all.
I don't want someone to be taken advantage of.
P.S. I'm trying to warn all 34 pages of people, I don't have time to read your story now. If you would like me to, reply to me and I will not forget.